“Where Did You Go?” The Story of Rob G

       “Where Did You Go?” The Force Pushing Rob G Forward
I recall the years I spent in hospitals, treatment after treatment; watching my daughter slip from my fingers.  The feeling of helplessness was overwhelming me and all I could do was pray that God wasn’t yet ready to take my angel from me.  When Rob and I talked about the loss of his wife, I imagined what I would have done if my own child had not won her battle against cancer.  It isn’t just losing someone you love, it’s the process of watching your loved one fight with every breath to stay with you.  Then, to witness them ultimately losing that fight, is accompanied by an emptiness that can consume even the strongest of us.
We spent a week on the road, show after show; club after club.  We drank and laughed as I watched an atmosphere form around us; until even those across the room could feel our energy.  I remember watching Rob as he greeted people, snapped pictures and offered a welcoming smile to all who approached him.  By the end of even the first day, I no longer saw him as a singer, celebrity, or even a public figure.  He was Rob, a man coping with the loss of his wife.  A man that felt the same helpless feeling I had but whose prayers weren’t answered.  More importantly, he was my friend and a man who wanted anybody around him to simply have a good time.
The struggles that we talked about were very similar to the story of many of my friends who have made it in the music industry; working a block, doing whatever it took to survive, legal or illegal.  The grind to be on top is a hell of a process that many cannot or will not be able to complete.  There are those among us however who refuse to quit no matter what obstacles are thrown in front of us.  “Reppin My Block,” is Rob’s grind story.  Through his music, he has told a story of hardship; his story.  As I listen to the radio, I hear my friend; singing his life into my speakers.  The pain he feels was not evident before, but now…I hear it in his voice, his lyrics.
Friday night, we went to a popular Houston club and sat in VIP with Pitbull and David Rush.  As we worked our way towards VIP, the bouncers got bigger and the crowd grew more hostile.  Everybody was gathered around to see the stars, snap pictures and hopefully, receive a handshake.  I got lost in the crowd and gave up trying to fight my way into the corner where the others had posted up.  Two giants stood in front of me, guarding the area where the others were partying.  Then, I see Rob peer around the security guards searching for me.  As I climbed around, I felt a great welcoming feeling which only grew as he introduced me to everyone as his homeboy.  Once I was stationary, he left to work the room.  I watched him laugh and smile and snap pictures with anyone who asked him.  No matter who they were, he offered them the same attentive smile, many times thanking them for their support.  He is a man’s man who remembers exactly where he came from and enjoys every second of where he is going.
As Rob and I sat and talked about the future, he shared his passion for the music industry and his goal to become an international artist.  I was fortunate enough to receive a copy of new material he has worked on.  As I listened to the tracks, I noticed a diversity not yet discovered.  Each song attacked a different market and I imagined the many radio stations that could easily feature these hits.  His goal to acquire the business sense needed to become an icon is undeterred and, through it all, I only see one regret.  That is that his wife will not be by his side as all of his prayers are answered.  My advice for my friend is simple:  never give up on your dreams and keep pushing.  Even though your wife is not here physically, I doubt she isn’t watching you with a smile on her face and an unrelenting feeling of pride in what you have become.


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Book Prologue



Diary of a Bipolar Drug
Have you
ever watched your three year old son sleep and imagine what he’s going to grow
up to become?  A doctor, a lawyer, a professional athlete?
Every child in the world has told their parents what they plan on doing
when they grow up.  How many of you have heard your kids say they
wanted to be a veterinarian?  They talk about what it’s going to be
like, living an adult life.  They share their dreams with you; eyes
glistening with hope and innocence.But how many children have
told their parents they were going to grow up to be a car thief, break into
houses, live on the streets, or become addicted to crack or heroin?
Have you ever heard a five year old say they wanted to smoke weed every
day for the rest of their life?  Or they were going to get married
one day and beat their spouse every day dinner was cold?
Unfortunately, parents have no way of knowing what their children will
grow up to be.  Or do they?Through the actions of
others, we have the ability to develop patterns of behavior.  We
can document and catalog consistencies, then compare it to similar circumstances
our children have, or someday might encounter.  Follow my story and
you just might be able to pick up on the tell-tale signs to drug addiction.  See…
us drug addicts think we’re
smarter than everyone else in the World.  We’re not.
We pull the same stunts, tell the same lies, steal the same people, talk
the same and maybe, just maybe, you can use my mistakes to see patterns that
might help you save your child’s life.  So take a trip with me,
through some of the heartest and greatest times of my life.
Witness my struggles.  Identify my signs.  When
we’re finished, you might just have what it takes to be the superhero our
children make us out to be.On June 8th, 1978, I was born
in Mesa, Arizona.
All I know about my biological mother is that she was 16 years old at the
time, so I had already been given up for adoption.  Three days
later, I left the hospital to join my new family.  My adopted
parents had already adopted another, 2 year old, Ben.  Although I
don’t have much recollection of my time in Arizona, I remember enough to know I was not off to a
stellar start.  One of the few memories, takes place on the roof of
my neighbor’s house.  When I was 3 years old, I was playing with
the boy who lived across the street.  After a while, his parents
collected him, and they left.  Some time later, I thought they had
come back home.  I rang the doorbell, but nobody answered.
I rang it again and again, but still… no answer.  When I
still was not convinced that they hadn’t come back, I decided to go around to
their back yard, for a better look.  I walked around to the side of
their house, and tried opening their gate.  When I realized it was
locked, I attempted to climb it.  When this failed, I searched for
a tree that I might have better luck with.  The only promising tree
didn’t put me in their  backyard; it put me on their roof.
Eventually, I made it, and had the scrapes to prove it.  I
circled to the back of their house, and puzzled through the possible ways for me
to descend into their yard.  After much deliberation, I finally
found a way. By the time all of the parents, both mine and my neighbor’s, came
home, I had dug quite a deep whole for myself.  I’m not sure what
kind of trouble I had gotten myself into, but consequences never stopped
me.  If the hand of God, himself, had come down, tapped me on the
shoulder and said, “Behave,” I doubt I could’ve obeyed.  There was
something inside me that wouldn’t allow me to follow the rules set by those who
ever held an authoritative position over me.

June 8,2008, I turned thirty
years old.  I have been accused of being very vain, on
occasion.  I have always considered a mirror a good friend.
Over the years, however, there have been many, many times I have been
unable to look myself in the mirror.  There is no question that I
have lived quite an unconventional life.  With this type of
lifestyle, comes tremendous amounts of both pain and joy.  I have
experienced things that most people could only dream of.  Yet, I
have also been through times that most only see in their nightmares.
How many people do you know who have spent a million dollars in one
calendar year, or driven around, throwing a two week party in the back of their
own Ford Excursion Limousine.  I have met singers, football
players, actors, comedians, and even quite a few professional wrestlers.
I have stayed in two story hotel suites, spents fourty thousand dollars
at a mall, and flown first class, all over the country.  I have
slept with strippers, danced on the beaches of Spain, and, at one point, even
had a full baseball scholarship to one of the best baseball-oriented schools in
the country.  I have been homeless in four different states, been
to five different prisons, and been pistol whipped and left for dead on a cold
city street.  I have stood helplessly, while watching someone close
to me get their head blown off, stole from the people I love, and been addicted
to every drug known to man.  I have lost homes, vehicles, jewelry,
and my family to drug addiction.  I threw away a promising baseball
career, forfeited two profitable businesses, and stood by as a another man
walked away with my wife.

At what point does a man
realize that he is heading down the wrong path?  Where do you
assess blame?  I have been diagnosed with ADHD, Bipolar,
Depression, and OCD(obsessive compulsive disorder).  Is this an
excuse for my actions?  In 1996, I was in and out of both rehabs
and halfway houses.  Total, I visited seven rehabs and nine halfway
houses.  Each time, they would attempt to get to the root of the
problem.  At some point, they would ask if I had any family members
who had alcohol or drug problems.  I don’t know the exact
percentage, however I do know that you have a considerably higher chance of
becoming a drug addict or alcoholic if you have a parent with an addiction
problem.  Unfortunately, being adopted means I have no idea if I
have any family members with an addiction.

When I turned twelve, I had
found a journal that my mother and
father had written in during the nine months they were waiting for my
brother.  He is two years older than me and was adopted as
well.  Curiosity struck, and I searched for a similar book written
in the months before I was born.  I found it and began
reading.  I remember being rather upset, because my father only
wrote two entries in mine, when he had filled my brother’s.  He
explained that he was busier with work when they were waiting for me.
I read the entries, curious to find something that would lead me in any
direction as to what my natural parents were like.  Looking back,
and knowing what I know now about addiction and genetics, I wish I would have
investigated further.  Growing up, the one constant was, whether it
was a parent or teacher, nobody seemed to have a clue as to how to calm me
down.  At my grandfather’s funeral, in 2006, I had been introduced
to an elderly woman, who claimed to know me around the age of three or
four.  I was very intrigued, because I cannot remember that far
back, and I was very interested to find out what I was like.  She
started telling me a story about a time she was asked, by my grandfather, to
babysit me.  As she spoke, a sort of cheerfulness overcame her, as
she recalled a time when she was younger, healthier.  She told me
that my brother and I had been dropped off at her house, and she had asked us to
sit in front of her t.v.  She explained how she had only ever given
us one rule: don’t touch anything.  Apparently, she is an avid frog
collector, and had frog figurines all over her house.  She said she
would look right at me, I would have this look of guilt in my eye.
She would stress that I wasn’t allowed to touch anything, but my eyes
were bouncing back and forth, between her and the frog figurines on her coffee
table.  As if on cue, the next time she turned her head, I would
grab the figurine and push it onto the floor.  While she was
telling me this story, a sneer apeared at the corner of her lip.
She giggled, then told me that this was a regular occurrence.
I would constantly look her in the eye, basically daring her to do
something, and knock stuff off the table.  When she wrapped up the
story, I laughed with her, and offered a very belated apology, at which she
brushed off with her hand, confessing that is was as cute as it was
disobedient.  I spoke with her a little longer, and then made my
rounds through the crowd of people gathered to pay their respects.
After talking with many people, who seemed to remember me from a young
age, the consensus became obvious, I was adorable but impossible, loving but

When I got home, I called my
father and asked him to mail me any paperwork from when I was little.
A few days later, I got this enormous envelope, with a book’s worth of
information in it.  I began studying my early years, and found some
pretty convincing evidence of a pattern that quickly developed during my
youth.  In this paerwork, I found old report cards, including
teacher’s comments, begging my mother to tell them how she controls me at
home.  I even found the reply, my mother apologized for the trouble
I caused, and wished them the best of luck; no helpful hints for the
teacher.  After reading through the report cards, I found a
behavioral study, taken when I was six.  In Arizona, 1984, any children
considered a bahioral problem, would be given a test that measured aggression,
hyperactivity, delinquence, depression, and many social skills.  My jaw dropped when I
noticed that I was over the 93rd percentile in each of the major
categories.  This study got my wheels spinning.  I
started to wonder why, a child with such anti-social tendencies, was able to
attend regular school and basically squeeze through the cracks, going from grade
to grade.

My son, turned eight this
past April.  For the last few years, he has demonstrated behavior
somewhat consistent with the behavior I displayed at his age.  The
big joke, especially with my in-laws is, “It’s not his fault.  He
just has his daddy’s blood.”  How true this is, remains to be seen,
but what if it is?  I started to think about both the positives ad
negatives of my son growing up like me.  Then, it hit me.
What if I was able to look back at my behavior, and use this to deter my
child from making the same mistakes I did?  Maybe I can save his
baseball career.  Maybe I can save his family.  Maybe
I can keep him from experiencing all of the pain I have dealt with, and all of
the pain I have caused.  What if I could save someone else’s
child?  What if I could keep someone else’s child from going down
such a path?  Never once have I regretted the way I have lived,
because with the bad comes the good.  If I had not been on the run,
I would have never met the mother of my child.  Until now, that is
the only good I have ever been able to grasp onto when reminiscing.

For thirty years, I have
walked the tight rope of life, figuratively destroying everything in my
path.  Although there is much that I am not proud of, ever single
time I broke the law, used a drug, went to jail, stole from loved ones, nearly
killed myself, ended up hosptialized, lost a significant other, disrespected my
parents, lied to those close to me, and squashed my dreams, can now be used for
so much good.  Without making excuses, a mental state, dating back
to a very young age, seemed to pre-determine the route I would take.
These misfortunes can be studied, researched, practiced, and documented;
possibly preventing the youth of the next generation from destroying such
promising oppurtunities.  Each one of us is responsible for their
own actions, and responsible for the children we have brought into this
world.  How about we do more than tell them what to do.
Let’s show them what can happen if they use drugs, break the law, steal
from loved ones, and don’t take advantage of the gifts we are given.
We can do this by showing them what I have been through and use that as a
way to get them heading in the right direction.

It was the summer of 1985,
and we were enjoying our first full New Jersey summer.  The trees
were greener than anything I had ever seen, and the bluejays and robins, sang
the most beautiful duet my ears had ever heard.  My parents had
called upon my grandparents to watch us, while they went on their first vacation
without my brother or myself, since we came along.  They had
planned a trip to Hawaii, and ignorantly thought it was safe to leave the two of
us behind, in the care of two amateurs.  This was also the year
that my brother and I had discovered that you needed money to buy snacks and
candy from the Deli down the street.  The two of us waited for the
final hugs and kisses, then plotted our crime wave.


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Small Towns


Although corporate America is taking small towns by storm with their SuperWalmarts, Targets, Walgreens and so on,  there are a few locally owned businesses in some rural areas refusing to lay down without a fight.  I, personally, live in Killeen and other than the obvious; Wal-Mart, Walgreens, Home Depot, Staples, most thriving businesses are owned by people who have lived here for years and are simply trying to “make a buck.” The problem however, goes back to a 1980’s tv show jingle, Cheers. “Everybody knows your name.” Well……not only does everybody know your name but everybody knows your business.  Small towns are notorious for third-party conversations, talking behind people’s backs and generally excellent at spreading rumors.  It sort of reminds me of that game we played as children, “telephone.”  Robert slept with Christina’s best friend Rachel, while Christina and Robert were dating turns into…..Robert got Rachel pregnant, gave her herpes, ran off with the kids, babies weren’t his to begin with and now Joey is sleeping with Christina who has herpes from Robert, then passed it to Terry who beat her up, she called the cops and now is spending 18 months in jail for meth possession.  What the Fuck?????  It seems to be almost safer not to speak a single word to anyone, lock yourself in your house and rent DirectTV movies until you’ve seen them all, buy a bottle of wine; slam it and pass out in a pool of your own vomit.  The one thing I’ve noticed about small towns, i.e. Killeen, is nobody really seems to give a shit about anyone.  Friends????? They can be counted on one hand. And when I mean friends, I mean true friends.. Ones that have never spoken an ill word behind your back, not fucked your boyfriend, husband, girlfriend or wife, been there when you had a flat and were stranded on the side of the road, or even $20 to turn your water back on.  I remember my wife posting a comment recently on Facebook saying she was sad and hurt.  This post had nothing to do with us but it wasnt 20 minutes before a guy I considered a “supposed friend” for years was calling her phone, not mine, asking what was wrong with the two of us.  Now either I’m a complete paranoid schizophrenic, or he was hoping there was some kind of opening where he could sliver his way in and at the very least, spend one night with my wife.  Everybody in this town knows she’s my wife and everybody in this town drools over her just the same.  She is, without a doubt, one of the most gorgeous women on the planet and I don’t fault him for trying but I do fault him for hugging me the next time he saw me.  I remember my cousin and I joking about my wife, well before we were married, or even when her and I weren’t together.  He said, “Bro, I LOVE you, but I would LOVE to fuck her even more.”  I didn’t like it but respected his honesty.  For those of you who have lived the Killeen scene long enough, you know exactly what I’m talking about and you also know why we can’t get anyone from the outside, celebrity or musicians, if you will, to come here.  Nobody will help their “friends” promote, unless they personally benefit; not to mention, the word is out. Killeen is not worth a fuck.  My wife and I, mutually, have decided to alienate ourselves from the fake club managers and dj’s and bartenders and door girls and strippers and bartenders and bouncers and friends of owners and managers, girlfriends of owners and managers, boyfriends of strippers, husbands of strippers, girlfriends of strippers, male strippers, Hooters altogether and so on and so forth. Hell, my best friend might as well be the Orkin man who kills my bugs every other month.  Killeen could fall off the Earth tomorrow and I can guarantee very few would be “sincerely” missed.  It’s nothing more than a melting pot for lowlife trash who have absolutely nothing going for themselves but can’t leave, for whatever the reason may be. Do you know the ones who have made it from here???? The ones who have branched out, reached out, traveled, and went and got their reputation and following; because if you try to start a business, develop a following, or even “fit in,” and Killeen is your “Target Area,” I have a better idea.  Come to my house with all your investment money. We will call the fire department, request a controlled burn, and put it all in my dumpster and sing “Kum-Ba-Yah. Oh please let me apologize, just in case I spelled that wrong……don’t need to give anyone a reason to hate on me…….LOL


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Seven Days


We met on a Friday, fell in love on a Saturday, held hands in a theater on a Sunday, ignored each other on a Monday.  We broke up on a Tuesday, I broke her heart on a Wednesday, and realized I couldn’t live without her on a Thursday.  Friday just passed, can’t we fall back in love… now that it’s Saturday again?

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Far too often, we repress our feelings, in order to save ourselves the hurt involved in losing a love.  The problem is, such regression can blind you to what is in fact staring you in the face.  How can you survive, if you don’t fall, how can you live, if you won’t risk, how do you love, if you refuse to feel.  Many times, as humans and more importantly, as men, we hide our true feelings which can create a domino effect entirely opposite from our planned agenda.  We want to appear tough, larger than life, and always in control. Let me ask a question though, how did man discover he could sky-dive and survive…… Someone had to fall and pray the parachute worked.  It all boils down to one scientific yet practical theory: trial and error.  The error is part of life…the error is what helps us succeed…the error is a NECESSITY.  We spend too much of our lives protecting our feelings and not enough time expressing them.. If you love her, you need to tell her, show her, feel her, adore her, admire her, and trust her.  In other words…….. JUMP

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Colorado with Paul Wall

Last weekend, I spent Thursday through Sunday, with my boy Paul Wall.  The weekend started at Big Hev’s house where we ate an absolute feast.  There was crab legs, lasagna, steaks, shrimp, and sides that ran from corner to corner of the kitchen.  I walked downstairs in the split level house and seen Paul posted up on the couch.  In usual fashion, he stood up to address me while shaking my hand.  As we sat scattered around the house, consuming our meals, Paul engaged in small talk with the other guests.  There was no sign of any celerity, just guests of Heavy’s; hungry guests.  After we ate, we all got ready for Paul’s show at Club Sodo in Colorado Springs.

When everyone was ready, I had asked Paul to sign a couple of shirts; one for a friend’s son and one for a female friend of mine.  Even though I felt awkward asking my friend to do this, he didn’t hesitate at all.  I was excited for the little boy who probably would cherish that autograph for a very long time.

We loaded up and headed to the small club to watch Paul perform.  I need to take a minute and credit the club owner, John and the staff for making our entire group feel at home and comfortable.  Even the fans were very responsive and friendly.  I thoroughly enjoyed the whole atmosphere that Colorado Springs had to offer.

There is a presence that some artists bring to the stage that is seldom matched and Paul Wall definitely has that sort of charisma.  His team knows exactly what they want to do and exactly what they want to accomplish as far as getting the crowd electrified.

After another stellar performance, we headed straight to Denver.  Paul was going to be in the studio all day until soundcheck and another show.  I spent the day relaxing and recovering at the hotel; until time came to hit the club.  On our way, we stopped to grab Paul from the studio.  We listened to the two songs he wrote and recorded and even though he happens to be one of my favorite artists, I was still rather impressed by the diversity he showed in the new material.

By now, I believe everyone in the car from sniffling and coughing, more than likely due to the change in climate and elevation that we seemed not to be used to.  But, I saw no signs of quitting in anyone, especially Paul who exited the vehicle with his usual flare.  This club had a much different aura to it, but we were ushered through the tight crowd and were led to the stage.  The crowd was intense and Paul Wall was equal to the task of matching their intensity.  Once again, he lit up the audience, sick or not and even extended his performance due to the response we were getting.

By the morning, Paul was on a plane and I was exhausted.  Hev and I headed back to Colorado Springs for a day of rest and relaxation.  I am not the type to be star struck, especially because I am used to being around great performers; yet I still always need a moment to consume all that happens in a performance weekend.

At the end of the day, there is not a bad word anyone could honestly utter about Paul Wall as a performer, a man, or a friend.  He has taken what this World has offered him and made the most of his talent, which started at a slow grind like most do.  Wow, how lucky I am.

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